What Does Success Mean For You?

by Ali on March 8, 2010

Back in January, I regaled you with some of my goals for this year. I included this ambitious little template of my novel plans, explaining that I wanted to get Draft 2 done before going to SXSW:

The novel plan - success!

Well, I’m happy to report that the bit circled there in red happened. As you may have noticed if you follow me on Twitter, I’ve finished Draft 2 of the novel (clocking in at 176,000 words). With two whole days to spare. Success! I’ve even made copies on Lulu for myself and a couple of friends who’ve offered to give feedback on the whole thing. It looks like this:

Lycopolis (draft 2)

(I should’ve made my name bigger, damnit! Oh well…)

Happy ending? Sure. If you don’t count the blog posts unwritten, the friends neglected, the wedding unplanned…

Okay, I’ll be upbeat. Yeah, it’s a happy ending. I did succeed in something which I really wanted to do, and managed to get over my usual hang-ups about its lack of meaning to others. (Frankly, the world would be going on quite happily today whether or not I’d scrawled THE END on draft two yesterday.)

So am I a success? Hell, yeah. ;-) … But, seriously, that’s not the way to look at it. I succeeded at meeting a target I set for myself. It had a lot of meaning to me. I could have failed, but even if I had, it wouldn’t really have mattered: I’d probably still have got close to my goal.

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Review: Premium Planners (Charlie Gilkey)

by Ali on February 25, 2010

Click here to buy the Premium PlannersI don’t all that often post reviews straight to the blog, but I started digging into the Premium Planners earlier this week and they’ve got a lot of relevance to much of what I’ve been writing about on Aliventures: like not taking on too many goals, keeping track of your progress, staying focused and avoiding succumbing to impulses.

On a more personal note, I used them to got through some resistance on thinking about the year after April-ish – and realised that I definitely err towards packing in too much (and inevitably failing to get it all done). I’m not sure this was exactly a fun hour of realisations, but I suspect it’s going to leave me a bit more sane this autumn. ;-)

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Should Your Work Be Your Obsession?

by Ali on February 22, 2010

If you’re following me on Twitter, you’ll know I’m doing a lot of creative work at the moment. The next few months are a good time for me to focus hard on my novel, and I probably sound quite obsessed at the moment – with word counts, hours spent, plot problems resolved…

So I’ve been thinking about (mainly creative creative) work and obsession. I wrote about this last week, in Loving Your Work: Don’t Be Obsessive, Be Tough. Several people chimed in with comments, particularly about this paragraph:

Although we have terms like workaholic to describe people who fall into this trap with career-related work, I’m not sure that we have a corresponding way to talk about artists and creative types who succumb to obsession. We might feel that musicians, painters and writers should approach their craft in an obsessive way: we think this is good for them and for the work.

And then, basking in the glow of everyone agreeing with me (ah, if only this would always happen in real life…), I read Jonathan Mead’s post How to Make a Living Out Of Your Obsession (over on Productive Flourishing), where he wrote:

Each day now, I actually wake up excited to start work. No, I’m not kidding. I eat and breathe what I do. For me, there are no boundaries. And the only way I’ve done that is by being obsessed with what I do.

And this is supposed to be a good thing? There were plenty of comments over on Jonathan’s post in favour. But I’m still very unconvinced. Yep, I can see why Jonathan’s touting obsession (aside: is this the new “passion” in the personal development blogosphere?) but I’m not with him on it.

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In a recent piece (Words, Writing and Blogging) for Alex Blackwell’s The BridgeMaker, I wrote about how I’m unconvinced by the idea of “finding your passion” that fixates some writers and bloggers in the personal development sphere. It just doesn’t chime well with me. Maybe following your passion will leave you broke; or maybe your life isn’t about one single passion but multiple diverse activities which all bring joy.

Related to all the talk of “passion” is the holy grail of loving your work. Now, I’m all for this one. I do believe that we should spend the bulk of our time doing something which we enjoy and which is meaningful to us: something which lets us sit back at the end of the day or the week, proud with what we’ve done.

But “loving” your work can lead to two problems:

  • You’re so in love with what you do that everything else in your life (relationships, finances, health) suffers
  • Or, you feel like you’re wrong when you’re slogging through a tough patch or struggling to feel the love for what you do

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The Blogger’s Guide to Effective Writing (Ali Hale)

February 9, 2010

I’m hugely excited today because I’m finally launching an ebook that’s I’ve put a lot of love into … The Blogger’s Guide to Effective Writing. I’ve written before about Why I Blog, and this ebook was my attempt to teach others how to blog in the way that I do – focusing on the actual [...]

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Struggling With Self Improvement?

February 2, 2010

I got an email last week from an Aliventures reader, titled “Struggling with self improvement”. The reader listed some great changes that he’d made in his life since getting interested in self improvement a year ago, but went on to write about feelings of pressure and ultimate emptiness. I won’t reproduce the whole email here, [...]

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Why Your Creativity Matters

January 28, 2010

A couple of years ago, I thought of “creative” people as a special type, often going about their creative work in a special place. Writers in garrets, artists in studios, craftsmen in workshops. And I thought that these people had something magical … some genius spark that let them produce works of art.
But since then, [...]

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Carrying On When Rewards Are Distant

January 25, 2010

Motivation. It’s probably one of the most written-about topics in my corner of the blogosphere, and I’ve definitely contributed my share of posts on it.
Like so many good things in modern life, motivation is often seen as a quick-fix. You read an article or a book, or listen to a podcast, and you feel that [...]

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Money, Value and Happiness

January 21, 2010

“The love of money is the root of all evil.” (1 Timothy, Chapter 6, Verse 10)
You’ve probably heard that misquoted a fair few times as “money is the root of all evil.” But money itself is neutral. It’s our attitudes towards it which can be good or evil.
I don’t think evil is too strong a [...]

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How to Handle Having Lots of Projects

January 18, 2010

Do you ever feel overwhelmed? I suspect most of us do, whether or not we’d tell anyone. I tend to have a lot of projects on the go, and though I’m keeping my core focus on a couple of key goals, life inevitably involves a handful of other things too.
I’ve written before about putting off [...]

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