If you’re following me on Twitter, you’ll know I’m doing a lot of creative work at the moment. The next few months are a good time for me to focus hard on my novel, and I probably sound quite obsessed at the moment – with word counts, hours spent, plot problems resolved…
So I’ve been thinking about (mainly creative creative) work and obsession. I wrote about this last week, in Loving Your Work: Don’t Be Obsessive, Be Tough. Several people chimed in with comments, particularly about this paragraph:
Although we have terms like workaholic to describe people who fall into this trap with career-related work, I’m not sure that we have a corresponding way to talk about artists and creative types who succumb to obsession. We might feel that musicians, painters and writers should approach their craft in an obsessive way: we think this is good for them and for the work.
And then, basking in the glow of everyone agreeing with me (ah, if only this would always happen in real life…), I read Jonathan Mead’s post How to Make a Living Out Of Your Obsession (over on Productive Flourishing), where he wrote:
Each day now, I actually wake up excited to start work. No, I’m not kidding. I eat and breathe what I do. For me, there are no boundaries. And the only way I’ve done that is by being obsessed with what I do.
And this is supposed to be a good thing? There were plenty of comments over on Jonathan’s post in favour. But I’m still very unconvinced. Yep, I can see why Jonathan’s touting obsession (aside: is this the new “passion” in the personal development blogosphere?) but I’m not with him on it.
Obsession Can Be Good (in the Short Term)
Now, I can see why “being obsessed with what [you] do” could be helpful. You might get some useful benefits like:
Concrete Focus
If you’re obsessed, it’s pretty darn easy to focus. You’re not going to be fighting constant impulses to stop what you’re doing. You won’t be easily distracted. You’ll wake up focused on doing your work, and other considerations – like the laundry or the housework or that cute guy/girl at the gym – aren’t going to be any distraction.
Easy Energy
Jonathan says he wakes up excited about work, and I believe him: I get a real sense of his energy and enthusiasm in his writing. An obsession can give you the energy to jump out of bed, to power through the day, to carry on even when you’d normally be flagging. If you’re obsessed, maybe you don’t need to worry about trying to do your good creative work at your best times of day – you’ll just carry on going.
Getting Into “Flow”
I don’t manage this all that often with fiction writing, but it’s great when I do: I lose track of time, I’m very much in the moment, and I forget about all those nagging little questions like “what’s for dinner?” and “what’s happening on Twitter?” I tune out conversations, music, traffic noise. I can do something similar with a book I’m really into, or (less laudably) with computer games.
However … these benefits are short term. Sure, when I’m really into my novel, I’m keen to get up and get on with work; I find myself focusing more easily and achieving flow more often. But I don’t spend an entire week, or even an entire day, writing fiction. If I did, I’d quickly get exhausted. I’d run out of energy and ideas, and the writing would begin to feel much more like a chore than a treat.
Obsession Won’t Work Long Term
Maybe it’s fun to be obsessed. Maybe it makes your work feel terribly important, giving you a nice masochistic blend of stress and self-righteousness. Over the long term, though, being obsessed isn’t good for you, it isn’t good for your work, and it isn’t good for the people around you.
Unbalanced Life
Being obsessed with something means, by definition, that you’re focusing on it to the exclusion of pretty much everything but the bare essentials in the rest of your life. When you’re obsessed with your work, you might not sleep enough, eat healthily, or take enough exercise (I know my exercise levels drop off dramatically when I’m “too busy” with my terribly important and engaging work…)
Selfishness
Closely related to this lack of balance is selfishness. Putting your work on a pedestal because it’s your obsession might feel noble, but it’s not. Obsession is a convenient excuse to make your work the focus of your life and the lives of everyone around you. (And yeah, I’m guilty of this; when I’m busy with work, Paul ends up doing more of the housework to support me. I’d rather write than clean, and it’s very tempting to take advantage.)
No Distance From Work
If you can’t ever get any distance from your work, then both you and the work will suffer. I take holidays from writing: we’re planning a walking break over Easter when I won’t touch a computer for a few days. I’ll have whole days when I write very little. I need this time and space to recharge my batteries. I also need it to get some critical perspective on what I’m writing. If I was properly obsessed with my work, I wouldn’t be able to leave it alone.
Burn Out
Ultimately, obsession leads to burn out. Working too hard for too long isn’t good for you – even if you love your work. If you’re going to have innovative ideas in your business, if you’re going to have that spark of creative energy for your art, then you simple cannot be obsessive about your work. Sure, you can have whole mornings or afternoons or days or weekends when you throw yourself into a project – but then take it easy. Let it go. Reconnect with the rest of your life.
Of course your work matters. But so does your health, your relationships, your happiness.
In the end, you are in charge. If it feels like your life is being dictated by your work, or that your work has become your entire life, you need to pull back. Take a whole weekend off. Do some deep, quiet thinking – going beyond those rushing, circling thoughts which come with obsession.
I don’t want to make a living out of my obsession. I want to have my life, and have it fully: I want to love my work, but not to be defined by it.




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Thank you, Ali, for putting this out there… I was starting to think I was alone in my views on obsessions as a career goal. I think it was Penelope Trunk who stated that she loves sex, but she doesn’t want to make a living doing it. I agree that work matters, but there’s so much more to life…
Finding something that fulfills us isn’t the same thing as feeding (or possibly manifesting) an obsession to drive our work lives. The idea of a compulsory preoccupation counters my ultimate goal of living a balanced life that brings joy to not only me, but to those I love.
I greatly appreciate you sharing this… I’m sure others who share your view will be comforted as well.
Ha ha, good riposte! I read Jonathan Mead’s post and thought: wow, really? I don’t like the way he seems to be using ‘obsession’ as a superlative of ‘passion’. ‘Find your passion’ is tough enough advice to follow, but obsession? Isn’t it a connotation of the word ‘obession’ that you’d rather NOT be so interested in the subject, or shouldn’t be?
By the way, why is it less laudable to lose track playing a video game than reading a book? Explain yourself!
Hey Ali,
I noticed the same general effect with work. I’m usually in flow in my work, but if I keep it up for long periods without stop, it’s exhausting. I think liking what you do is not a way to prevent exhaustion. Even if you’re very passionate about your work, you eventually need to take brakes and also focus on other things.
Eduard
“I also need it to get some critical perspective on what I’m writing. If I was properly obsessed with my work, I wouldn’t be able to leave it alone.”
Am particularly interested in how we can get enough distance from our work to gain some objectivity.
I tend to get obsessed with things I’ve just created, and without giving the work some time, it can end up being put out there before it’s ready. On the flip side, it can be equally as difficult to know when something’s finished and you should put it down…
There’s really no replacement for an outside — and objective — set of eyes, but they aren’t always so easy to find.
Ali,
Great post. Thanks for sharing your ideas.
When I was a kid, I used to lose track of time when I was playing cricket and walking in the outdoors. Any kind of physical activity gave me a buzz and I had a tendency to go overboard.
As a result, I missed appointments, returned home later, didn’t have enough time left for homework, and my life was a mess. This still happens, of course, but now I wear a watch.
Losing your self in nature is fine when you are doing that on your own time, but not when you are accountable and responsible to other people, such as parents, employers, etc. Cheerio.
Your right an obsession can be good or it can be bad. The important thing is that you have balance and balance only comes from having goals. If your obsession is not taking towards your goals then it’s out of balance and needs putting in check
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I loved you last sentences Ali:
“I don’t want to make a living out of my obsession. I want to have my life, and have it fully: I want to love my work, but not to be defined by it.”
I really think you hit the nail on the head with that. Such balance, although it may be hard to achieve, should, IMO, be everyone’s ultimate goal.
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Ali,
Jonathan’s use of the word “obsession” was interesting. However, in the popular imagination, the word “obsession” may carry a negative connotation. That’s my only concern, with due respect.
Just watch the movie, “Psycho”, by Alfred Hitchcock and you’ll know what I mean. Norman Bates, who manages a motel–located in a remote area–is clearly “obsessed” about attractive women. Wearing a wig, high-heeled shoes, and a skirt, Bates murders these ladies while they are taking a shower. Before that, Bates does not mind invading their privacy. Chilling scenes.
That’s why (maybe?) it is necessary to choose our words carefully. If not obsession, can we use another word? Maybe a word that is more relevant and appropriate? More acceptable?
This can serve also as food for thought for another post? How we use language, the impact of language, the appropriateness of language, the relevance of language, etc. Cheers to you.
Hi I’ve recently become a reader of your blog, and I definitely agree with this and your last article. I think it’s truly wonderful to fall in love with your work, but just like falling in love with a person you need to have a solid foundation of real love and respect underneath or when the bouts of passion fade you are left with nothing. You can love a job, but if you can’t wake up next to it’s smelly armpits everyday, it’s not going to last. Passion is still important (or obsession, or whatever you prefer) but the best kind is the slow-burning, sustainable feeling that leaves room for a well-rounded life and lets you happily remain married — I mean, in your career — for a long time.
@Alex: Ha ha, damn right. Every job has smelly armpits. All this stuff about waking up singing every morning because you’re just thrilled to darn heck to be allowed to do the job you do… I dunno. I mean, really? Every morning?
Even if you’re, I don’t know, a movie star or something, it’s just a job sometimes. I don’t think anything can be full on awesome all of the time.
I think obsession is definitely not the new ‘passion’. Passion is what keeps your work exciting and alive in the long term. I agree with you, Ali, when you say that obsession can result in an unbalanced life, selfishness, etc. The thing is that passion can become an obsession if you’re not careful. It’s the same with falling in love, you’re passionate about your lover, but from the moment you become obsessed with that person, the relationship becomes unbalanced and your life as a whole becomes unbalanced.
No worries, though, taking a step backwards and gaining some perspective can almost always turn obsession back into passion. At least, that’s my experience. Really enjoyed reading this post!
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Wow, thanks for all the comments!
Jess, I like the way you use “compulsory preoccupation” … I think that’s what an obsession is; something which controls you, not something which frees you.
Willie, I dunno why it’s less laudable. Probably cos I did an English degree so reading can still tentatively feel like something “useful” whereas computer games have always been a distraction from what I *should* be doing… plus I’ve rarely found games which are as satisfying as books over the long run (probably because computer games are an incredibly new genre compared with novels).
Eduard, glad you’re with me on this! I think there can sometimes be a feeling that if we’re in flow, it’s effortless. It is in a way, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t using energy.
Barbara, I’m not sure any of us can truly get objective about our own work. I find it helps to let projects sit for a while and then go back to them with fresh eyes, trying to approach them as a reader/consumer — eg. reading the whole of a novel’s draft through, rather than stopping to tweak bits. I also find that seeking outside opinions helps, and being willing to act on them!
Archan, thanks for the comments — I agree with you on walking, it’s easy to lose track of time. Yep, a watch helps! And yes, I agree with you that the word “obsession” doesn’t have good connotations. I don’t want to get too into language issues here — it’s not the main point of Aliventures — but I do think the words we choose matter a lot, because of all the baggage they bring.
Alex, welcome!
And like Willie, I love the metaphor there for a job … yes, exactly, we have to put up with the little things that maybe irritate us, along with the fun bits. I think that both in love and in work, the importance of * commitment* instead of *passion* is often overlooked. Everyone should be able to leave their job behind once in a while.
Bart, I really hope it doesn’t become the new “passion” too. I find the word “passion” a bit overblown as it is. Actually, I suspect that obsession is probably a passion-killer … you get too close and too involved, and you lose the ability to simply enjoy your work.
Hi Ali,
Great discussion. I enjoyed both your and Jonathan’s post and I wonder if it’s about finding that balance between the two perspectives…. I completely get your take on it and personally I am striving to work hard but also be relaxed and enjoy my work, however I get what Jonathan is getting at too (particularly when for e.g. going from a 9-5 job to fully self employed in a short space of time)….maybe it depends what we want to achieve and how fast we want it and I think this changes at different times of our life for all os us.
I am guilty of being obsessed with what I do, so that I could have concrete focus on it. But, I think focus can be acquired from other things. For instance, the love and inspiration given by family and friends is well enough to provide the drive to focus. I for one, just fail to see this from time to time.
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Jen, thank you! Yes, I suspect a balance is somewhere in the middle (I might have been a bit more balanced in my post if I wasn’t responding to Jonathan’s). I agree with you that our approach may well differ at different times — and to some extent, what’s right and balanced for one person may not be the same for another.
Julius, I think we all fail from time to time! I know I can get very hooked into things (my novel-writing at the moment, for instance) and it can be very hard to draw back from whatever my current obsession is… I figure that so long as, generally, there’s a balance, I’m doing ok!
Thanks for your response. I also think that balance is important, and we can achieve balance through a number of ways. Taking well-deserved breaks, constantly reminding ourselves of our accomplishments, and having a good schedule are some of the things I do to maintain balance and focus.
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I’m a fan of find the job you love or love the job you’re with.
Passion or bust baby … that’s the way you light up your life and those around you.
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If you’ve got problems with love it’s not the fault of love. It’s your fault – because you obviously can’t deal with love.
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J.D. — good thought there in that it is possible to get more passionate about the circumstances you’re in … you don’t necessarily need to switch jobs.
Alice — I guess I think there’s real love and there’s obsession, which is a distortion of love.
It’s better work be obsession than other things. Being obsessed with people can result in too much pain and rejection. So, better to be obsessed about work though.