Comments on: Stop Trying to Please Everyone: Live Your Way

By: Kamal

Kamal — Thu, 22 Sep 2011 06:01:09 +0000

Love the story of donkey..

By: sudha

sudha — Thu, 22 Sep 2011 05:32:02 +0000

This is s life changing article! I am falling short of words in thanking you, to have written this marvelous write-up. It really made my day!

By: Mohammed Ali

Mohammed Ali — Sat, 04 Jun 2011 14:50:20 +0000

WOW! Really good article Ali!
It helped me out a LOT and really made me have confidence in myself. I just want to say a BIG THANK YOU!!! for making this article and I really appreciate it and it really means a lot.
Many Thanks

By: Ali

Ali — Sat, 21 May 2011 09:18:26 +0000

Hi Ria,

That sounds really tough — so you need to do the classes in order to stay part of the club?

Can you ask someone at your school to talk to the club and explain that you need to take a break during your exams? Have you talked to your parents about the pressure you’re facing?

I know how hard it can be to stand up to people, but this is YOUR life! If you’re not enjoying the classes but you still want to be part of the club, can you talk to someone at the club and explain the situation?

Good luck!

Ali

By: ria

ria — Fri, 20 May 2011 20:29:57 +0000

hi Ali!,
i just found out about this article and I have to say I’m already feeling better. Well, Im a teenager and this is the first time that im facing such a difficult year of responsibilities. I’m going to ballet classes and I am a part of a dance club in my city. I managed to get in the club through my dance school, so obviously a cannot be a member of the club, if I stop the classes. My problems starts, while i have 2 weeks period to study for my external exams, I spent almost everyday on dancing at the dance club or my dance school. I have to stop something in order for me to manage to pass my exams with good grades, however I cannot because Im afraid to talk to my dance teachers because they are always stopping me from doing what I want to do(to stop the dance lessons, because I’m expiriencing too much pressure:/). I’ve tried several times to stop, but i never get what i want due to their sayings that I have to move on because Ive been dancing for many years. Im really worried about my exams, and i dont know how to find the strength to speak! This is not what i want to do and everytime they remove my confidence. I would really like to read your advice.;/

By: Ali

Ali — Mon, 21 Feb 2011 17:39:57 +0000

Thanks Ranjith! I will indeed keep posting!

By: Ali

Ali — Mon, 21 Feb 2011 17:39:34 +0000

Hey Natalie,

I’ve sent you an email – just wanted to add here in the comments (for anyone else reading) that you can’t take on the responsibility for someone else’s happiness.

Obviously, you want your parents to be proud of you — but you need to live your own life too. It sounds like you’ve got a pretty good idea of what you *would* like to do, and I really hope you get the chance to try.

By: Ranjith

Ranjith — Sat, 19 Feb 2011 18:13:49 +0000

Ali -Thanks for the great post. I have absolutely loved it. This is very true … and what a refreshing feeling if you ignore all the unnecessary expectations.

Like your writing style… keep posting.

By: Natalie.L.

Natalie.L. — Sat, 19 Feb 2011 14:56:40 +0000

Hey Ali,
I came across this article today and I want to thank you for writing this.
I’m currently doing a degree that I have grown to dislike over the past four years of studying it and I feel miserable most of the time. I will be graduating this May and I’ve been so worried of how my life would be like after all this. My dad had always been pushing me to take a degree and now he’s telling me where I should apply for a job after I’m done with my degree.
I don’t want to let him down but I am so tired of trying to please him and fulfill everyone else’s expectations. I’ve always wanted to do something in arts and pursue a career in this field but my parents have never been supportive when it comes to art stuff. They always say that it would bring me nowhere.
I feel like if I go out and do what they want me to, it would make them happy and completely unaware of how I feel.
I hope I could start making my own decisions and remind myself that I can’t please everyone

By: Ali

Ali — Fri, 28 Jan 2011 12:37:55 +0000

Thanks Fred..! Good luck with your path, hope you find plenty of supporters who “get” it along the way.