Comments on: Stop Trying to Please Everyone: Live Your Way

By: Carrying On When Rewards Are Distant — Aliventures

Carrying On When Rewards Are Distant — Aliventures — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 16:11:48 +0000

[...] fall somewhere in the middle ground here. I certainly agree you shouldn’t let your goals be dictated by other people, but I also believe that worthwhile goals are going to involve some tough [...]

By: When You Have No Idea What You Want — Aliventures

When You Have No Idea What You Want — Aliventures — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 16:40:27 +0000

[...] in the early days of Aliventures (in the not-so-dim-and-distant past of last July), I wrote about the dangers of trying to please everyone else. This is one of the biggest reasons why you might find it almost impossible to say what we want [...]

By: Satya Murthy » Should You Care What Other People Think of You?

Satya Murthy » Should You Care What Other People Think of You? — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 16:24:10 +0000

[...] isn’t like high school: it doesn’t matter if you’re not popular. You can’t please everyone anyway – so don’t even try. Say “no” to commitments that you don’t want to take on. Be willing [...]

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Review Should You Care What Other People Think of You? Gadget Reviews — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 05:01:16 +0000

[...] Have to be PopularLife isn’t like high school: it doesn’t matter if you’re not popular. You can’t please everyone anyway – so don’t even try. Say “no” to commitments that you don’t want to take on. Be willing [...]

By: Should You Care What Other People Think of You? | Money Daily Blog

Should You Care What Other People Think of You? | Money Daily Blog — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 01:03:27 +0000

By: Are You Pursuing Your Goals to the Bitter End? — Aliventures

Are You Pursuing Your Goals to the Bitter End? — Aliventures — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 13:02:31 +0000

[...] are the one who has to work towards your goals. Don’t try to chase goals that someone else has dropped on you. However “worthy” those goals are, you’ll feel miserable and resentful … [...]

By: Meeting Your Goals #2: Making a Commitment — Aliventures

Meeting Your Goals #2: Making a Commitment — Aliventures — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 09:50:44 +0000

[...] Be careful, though, to balance internal and external commitment: you need to want that goal for yourself, not just because others are expecting you to achieve it. Don’t let other people’s expectations dictate your goals. [...]

By: Giving Up Commitments and Saying No to New Ones — Aliventures

Giving Up Commitments and Saying No to New Ones — Aliventures — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 10:13:55 +0000

[...] Perhaps a friend is in real need of your help. Perhaps you feel a moral obligation to fulfil a commitment. I believe that sometimes you do need to put other people first. Just make sure that you’re distinguishing between the few cases where this really is true … and all the other times when you’re just avoiding saying “no” because it’s easier to be a people-pleaser. [...]

By: Ali

Ali — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 17:50:08 +0000

Thank you Dre – I’m so glad to hear I could help!

It’s never going to be possible to please everyone. I always feel very uncomfortable when someone disapproves of my actions or thinks badly of me — like you, I want everyone to love me! But I recognise that some people simply have very different values and concerns from mine.

In the end, the best you can do is to love and value yourself first – don’t let other people’s responses push you down a path that isn’t right for you.

By: Dre

Dre — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 11:47:52 +0000

Thank you Ali, reading your artical has lifted the world off my shoulders and back. 10 min before reading your artical, I told my self my biggest problem I have is that I wan everyone to love me. Lol easy to say I was not doing very well in getting the world to love. But as I read yout artical I was better understanding why I was unable to world wide love, or in your word please everybody. Thank you for helping me see the light in myself and to be strong again.