This post was inspired by a discussion a while back in the Writers’ Huddle forums.
Have you ever given up on a writing project part-way through – perhaps after months or years of work?
I’ve abandoned plenty (three novels and two blogs, at the last count). I’ve also stuck with others even when I thought of quitting.
If you’re currently struggling with a major project and trying to decide whether to give up or stick with it, here’s what to do.
Don’t Destroy Anything Completely
This probably goes without saying … but don’t burn your novel manuscript and delete all the files or wipe your blog out altogether, however terrible it might seem might now.
If nothing else, you’ll want to look back in five or ten years and see how far you’ve come as a writer.
But there’s also the possibility that you’ll pick up the project at a later stage – perhaps when you’ve mastered new aspects of the craft and you can fulfil your vision for it.
So, hang on to what you’ve got, then decide whether you’re going to give up the project (at least for the foreseeable future) or plough on with it.
Ditch It When … You’ve Grown Too Much as a Writer
Some long projects span enough time that, during them, you change significantly as a writer – to the point where you realise that your initial idea was too small, too ambitious, or otherwise fatally flawed.
This is perhaps particularly the case if you get stuck into writing when you’re still fairly young. I wrote my first novel between the ages of 14 and 16, and by the time I’d finished the third draft, it was becoming clear that I needed to move onto something different in scope.
If something similar happens to you, please don’t have any regrets. All the words you wrote aren’t wasted in the slightest – they made you the (better) writer you’ve become.
Ditch It When … You Took on Something You Didn’t Love
I’ve no problem with writing for money as well as for love … but I think writers can run into problems if the love is entirely lacking.
If you’re slogging away intermittently on a “for the money” project, then maybe it’s time to ditch it for good and move on to something that fires you up instead.
The first couple of blogs I started didn’t really get far: I learnt a lot from creating them and building an audience, but the topics were ones I’d chosen with the hope of making some money someday. The same goes for a bunch of short stories that I wrote with the aim of furthering my writing career, rather than as an end in themselves.
If the thought of writing the next chapter of your novel or the next post for your blog fills you with dread rather than excitement, then it’s time to move on. What do you really want to write?
Stick With It When … You Doubt Yourself
Of course, writing what you love brings up its own set of problems. Perhaps you’re riddled with self-doubt: you might be having a blast writing, but what if no-one wants to read your finished novel?
I’ve only rarely met writers who were full of confidence about their skills, and they tended to be (to put it mildly) a little self-deluded. Most writers go through at least occasional periods of doubt, and can easily fall prey to impostor syndrome.
Perhaps you have a little voice in your head telling you, “Who are you to be a writer? Who’d want to read that? You’re wasting your time. You’re never going to be any good.” That voice is lying. The best way to shut it up is to ignore it and carry on writing – that way, you can prove it wrong.
Stick With It When … It Just Isn’t Coming Together
This goes hand-in-hand with self-doubt: sometimes, what you’re writing just doesn’t seem to be working. Maybe there’s a huge plot hole in the middle of your novel, or the characters you can almost hear talking in your head are flat and lifeless on the page.
If you’re a blogger, perhaps you’re struggling to gain any traction: no-one seems to be reading, and you feel like you’re pouring your words out into a vacuum.
It’s maddening, but I often find that the “aha” moment comes after a fair chunk of head-scratching and trying different things and seemingly wasting my time. By all means take a break from your work-in-progress – but don’t ditch it completely just because you’re temporarily stuck.
Stick With It When … It’s Taking Too Long
If you’ve been around on Aliventures for a while, you’ll know that in the last three years, I’ve had two babies – my little girl will be three in March 2016, and my little boy is about to turn one on Christmas Eve 2015.
You might also know that there was a four-year gap between the publication of my first novel, Lycopolis, and its sequel, Oblivion. (You can find more about both of those here.)
So, I can only empathise with writers who have very little time for their big project. It is tough to keep up the energy and momentum when life is hectic, and it’s easy to get discouraged when work proceeds at a snail’s pace.
But that’s not a reason to give up.
Novels take a long time to write – not just to draft, but to revise and edit. Sure, some writers finish a whole draft during NaNoWriMo each November – but they might then easily spend another 11 months getting it into shape.
Blogs take a long time to build – if you see a blogger achieve seemingly overnight success, that’s probably because they have a string of failed blogs to their name, and a ton of lessons learned.
Ten years from now, you’ll look back on what you’ve achieved (or not). Even if progress feels frustratingly slow, it can and will add up over time.
Still Not Sure?
Over the past few years, I’ve been learning to trust my gut more when I decide whether to say “yes” or “no” to an opportunity or request.
If I get a sinking feeling as soon as someone asks me, “Ali, could you…” then I should trust that, and say “no”. I have never ignored that feeling, said “yes”, and been glad about it.
What’s your gut telling you about your work-in-progress?
If you decided to give up, right now, would you feel deeply relieved … or would you really miss working on it?
K.M. Weiland has a very open, honest post here where she writes about giving up on one of her novels – a couple of years of work. In it, she says:
The gut knows. There were times when I would have loved to have just thrown up my hands and quit on Dreamlander. But something kept me going. Every time I considered stopping, my instincts started howling. Keep going! You can fix this story! You have to see this through!
On the other hand, when I made the decision to put The Deepest Breath away for good, the loudest response I got from my gut was a big sigh of relief.
– K.M. Weiland, 3 Signs You Should Give Up On Your Story, Helping Writers Become Authors
Sometimes, you need to trust that gut reaction. When I’m still dithering, I flip a coin and see whether I’m happy or not with the outcome … and if I’m not happy, I go with the option I’ve just realised I’d prefer.
I’d love to hear about your current work-in-progress, whether it’s one you’re enjoying every moment of or one that you’re sorely tempted to throw away. Pop a comment below to share how it’s going.